For this blog, I chose this gorgeous burgundy split midi textured dress from Asos Curve. I love this bodycon split dress. It’s flexible but still firm and the textured fabric is just amazing. The best thing about this dress is the side pockets. It’s so rare to find a great dress that has pockets. It’s the perfect little red dress!
I chose to blog about this dress because with this dress I am challenging one of my insecurities. I have pretty heavy thighs and I always thought this showed at the back of my knees. For years, I banned all short shorts, skirts and dresses with splits in the back. When I wear a split dress, I feel like it accentuates the inside of my legs, my “problem area.” For me, that is awful. I always hated this part of my body. But when I saw this dress from Asos Curve, I just loved it and thought: “it’s time to challenge yourself and to get over this insecurity, just wear what you love”.
What do you think about insecurities? How often do you think it affects what you do or what you wear because you don’t want to be judged? How do you think you can tackle these insecurities and change the way you see yourself? Do you think it’s wise to put yourself out there and show those insecurities? And what about bullying? Do you believe that by overcoming your insecurities words of others will affect you less?
Well I think it’s like a taboo. A taboo is something that makes us feel uncomfortable and awkward. It’s difficult to talk about taboos but as long as you don’t talk about it, they stay taboos. It’s by opening the conversation about it that it becomes less awkward and something we learn to accept. That is what I believe is called breaking taboos. For me, it’s the same thing with insecurities. If you avoid dealing with them, they will stay insecurities. It’s only by challenging them that we can break free from these insecurities, just like blockages that can be resolved.
I think that when you avoid certain clothing like bikinis and crop tops because you’re ashamed of your belly or tank tops because you’re ashamed of your blabber arms or even shorts and split dresses because you’re ashamed of your heavy thighs, you’re validating your insecurities. I believe that by challenging your insecurities, you can overcome them.
So, I wanted to blog about this plus size dress by Asos Curve. When I wear this dress, I will feel insecure at first because I am showing the back of my knees but the more I wear it, the less awkward it gets. Every time I wear this dress I will feel less and less ashamed of this part of my body and in time this won’t even bother me at all anymore. I will feel proud of myself just for wearing this dress and I will start to love this part of my body because it has changed my perception of myself. It has made me love myself more because I’ve accepted my insecurity and therefor my body. And if someone wants to comment on my legs, I’ll think: “well, I love this dress, it makes me feel good. So whatever you have to say about it doesn’t bother me. I will wear whatever I want, it is my body and my life and it’s not yours to judge”. I think there’s something empowering by telling yourself that you can do and wear whatever you want despite what everybody else thinks.
When I look around on my social media and see all those women who are contributing to the body positive movement, I see so many beautiful plus size women putting themselves out there trying to change society’s perspective on fat people. Trying to shift society’s judgment to acceptance and telling all plus size women to stop hiding, to not be ashamed and to be proud. I feel we are doing so much good for all those who feel unworthy and for all who’ve been bullied just because of who they are and what they look like. So to all you plus size beauties out there, strut your curves and be proud, love yourself!
Asos Curve Midi Wiggle Dress in Texture.
This gorgeous bodycon dress is from Asos Curve, available in European size 48 (size 18 UK) up to a European size 58 (size 28 UK) for 60 euros, you can find it here. I ordered a European size 48 (size 18 UK) and the fit of this dress was perfect. I would say Asos Curve is true to size, find their size guide here.
Here are some alternative little red dresses I love.
Wide Fit Black Platform Court Shoes.
I’ve chosen these great black stilettos from New Look Fashion to complement this dress, available for 24.99 euros. These are wide fit and really comfortable. I ordered these heels in a European size 41 (size 7 UK) and they fit perfectly, find their size guide here. Unfortunately, these heels are no longer availeble but i’ve lined up some great alternatives for you.
Here are some alternative black heels I absolutely love.
I hope I have inspired you to put aside your insecurities and wear whatever you want. I hope you realize that every insecurity is a chance to grow and to learn to love yourself.
More plus size fashion news on the next spread. Stay positive!!